Abuse escalates! and unless the one who has behaved abusively takes responsibility for the abusive behaviours, the abuse tends to become more frequent and more serious. Everyone Deserves to be safe! If you are experiencing violence of abuse in an intimate relationship, it is important to plan for your safety and the safety of your family. Prepare to leave before the threat of violence gets worse.

Before the next outburst, think about;

Going to a safe place, trusted friend, family, emergency room, or public place.

All possible ways to leave.

Leaving before violence starts, if possible, and taking your children with you.

Staying out of rooms with weapons.

Getting your own private bank account.

Keeping some money outside the home so that you will have it if you leave.

Deciding on a code word to signal a friend that you are leaving and need support.

Get a bag ready containing the following items and leave it in a safe place (neighbor, friend, work):

Phone card or coins.

Extra set of clothes and shoes for you and your children

Toys for your children

Medications and prescriptions

Extra key for house, car, and office

Phone numbers of emergency shelters

Pack photocopies or originals of the following:

Cash, cheque book, bank card, credit card.

Birth certificates.

Social Insurance numbers.

Driver's license and registration.

Care Cards.

Address book

Passports, immigration documentation

Identification

Divorce papers or separation agreement

Custody agreements

Insurance papers

Bank statements or other financial records

Lease/mortgage papers, house deed

Copy of restraining order or peace bond

School and vaccination records